Archive | May 2012

The Virtuous Woman: Proverbs 31:10-31

I don’t think I am alone, as a Christian woman, when I say I read the section about the virtuous woman often and strive to be like her. She, this fictional perfect woman, is such an inspiration and motivator for me.

As I was finishing up writing out the book of Proverbs recently, I noticed the virtuous woman section seemed to be separated into 4 sections. Each are equally challenging in the modern Christian woman’s life.

Her role as a wife: 11The heart of her husband doth safely trust in her, so that he shall have no need of spoil. 2She will do him good and not evil all the days of her life. And 23Her husband is known in the gates, when he sitteth among the elders of the land.

I thought it was very fitting for her husband to be mentioned first. Woman was originally created to be a help meet for her husband. In Genesis 2, God sees it is not good for man to be alone. He causes Adam to fall into a deep sleep, takes one of his ribs and forms a Woman. Wives are called to not merely submit to their husbands, but to love them. Ultimately, true Biblical submission comes from love. In Titus 2, the aged women are commanded to teach the young women to do a host of things, including “to love their husbands”. Men and women are similar in that we both need to feel safe and secure. Not only physically, but also emotionally. Men need to know that he can pour his heart out to his wife and that her lips are sealed. She won’t go laughing about it with her mom or her girlfriends. He will learn very fast his heart is not safe with her, will stop confiding in her, and ultimately stop communicating with her.

She is a hard worker: 13She seeketh wool, and flax, and worketh willingly with her hands. 14She is like the merchants’ ships; she bringeth her food from afar. 15She riseth also while it is yet night, and giveth meat to her household, and a portion to her maidens. 16She considereth a field, and buyeth it: with the fruit of her hands she planteth a vineyard. And 18She perceiveth that her merchandise is good: her candle goeth not out by night. 19She layeth her hands to the spindle, and her hands hold the distaff. Also 21She is not afraid of the snow for her household: for all her household are clothed with scarlet. 22She maketh herself coverings of tapestry; her clothing is silk and purple. Lastly 27She looketh well to the ways of her household, and eateth not the bread of idleness.

The virtuous woman works hard for her family. She made their clothes, bought/made food, bought and sold products…she was very busy and not idle. Today, clothing is much cheaper to buy than make, but the same principle applies. She also planned ahead, saving her family money, time, and a cold winter! Her work wasn’t limited to staying inside the home, she was involved in real estate and was an entrepreneur. The role of help meet and keeper of the home can definitely include working outside the home, sometimes it must.

She is a strong woman: 17She girdeth her loins with strength, and strengtheneth her arms. And 25Strength and honour are her clothing; and she shall rejoice in time to come.

The idea that Biblical women are these mindless, meek, parasitical doormats is definitely a misconception. In order to be a submissive, loving, virtuous woman/wife/mother you must be strong. We will also become phyiscally stronger, any mother who has held a toddler on her hip for any extended period of time knows this! 😉

She is charitable: 20She stretcheth out her hand to the poor; yea, she reacheth forth her hands to the needy. And 26She openeth her mouth with wisdom; and in her tongue is the law of kindness.

This is really every Christian’s job, not just women’s. Giving to the needy, helping widows and orphans are concepts all throughout the Bible. Amongst the busy life of this virtuous woman, she stops and considers those who don’t have as much as she has. She also offers her kindness and wisdom. We should always have a tongue of kindness and love one another.

*Her Praise*
 10Who can find a virtuous woman? for her price is far above rubies. Also 28Her children arise up, and call her blessed; her husband also, and he praiseth her. 29Many daughters have done virtuously, but thou excellest them all. 30Favour is deceitful, and beauty is vain: but a woman that feareth the LORD, she shall be praised. 31Give her of the fruit of her hands; and let her own works praise her in the gates.

10 reasons to cook at home (and maybe even from scratch!)

Over the last couple years, I’ve been trying to cook at home more often AND cook from scratch. I still have a long way to go, and may never make every single thing from scratch, but I have come a long way since getting married 5 years ago! 🙂 I have found some really great perks to cooking at home and cooking from scratch.

1) Saves money. A general rule is the more convenient something is, the more expensive it is.

2) You can control what goes in. This helps if maybe your child has allergies or you just worry about chemicals, dyes, etc.

3) You can control flavor. Really spicy vs. more mild, really chocolatey vs. less chocolatey, more sauce vs. less….you get the idea.

4) Your family will appreciate it. Even if a meal flops sometimes, your family will be thankful that you work so hard for them. Maybe kids don’t always appreciate it, but they definitely will when they are older! I know I do 🙂

5) It’s fun! I really like being creative in the kitchen. The more you experiment, the more comfortable you feel trying new things.

6) When you do go out to eat, it’s a treat. It’s something special your family can do together once in a while, your kids get excited!

7) As a wife and mother, you feel fulfilled. It brings great satisfaction to work hard in the kitchen preparing a nice meal, then get to sit and enjoy it with the people you love. (It wouldn’t hurt if someone else did the dishes and clean up afterwards, but what can ya do? 😉 )

8) Learning experiences for kids. Depending on age, of course, let them help. Not only will they learn for their own adulthood, but it creates great bonding moments!

9) Leftovers! Maybe not all the time, but sometimes you can have leftover food for lunch the next day.

10) Spending quality time with your family. Of course you can spend quality time together at a restaurant. However, at home there is no one constantly coming up to the table “Is everything alright?” “Need anything?” “Here’s your bill.” “Please leave already so we can seat the next people.” (The last one is just a joke. 😉 ) You can spend as long as you want, or need, at the dinner table together. I have heard that children who eat a structured dinner with their family most every night do better in school, other activities, and are just happier in general.

Cooking at home definitely takes practice and trial & error. You will mess up sometimes and will have to make a quick drive to McD’s. It is a lot of work, but I think it is worth it 🙂

Belle and Penny

They are also known as Pork Chop and Sausage, respectively, when they are bad 😉 Belle and Penny are our two beautiful, fun, loving labrador retrievers. Even though they are sisters (same parents, different litters), they are as different as black and white….or in this case, black and yellow.

Belle is my first dog, ever. I grew up with cats, didn’t really like dogs much. Jeremy is allergic to cats and grew up with dogs. About a year after we were married, we decided to look at local shelters. We met with a couple of dogs, but none seemed to “click”…and I really had no idea what I should be looking for or what I was doing. Then we met this cute little brown pup, a mutt of course, but so fun! He was adopted the next day by another family. We were upset we missed out. That same day, Jeremy’s mom saw an ad for labrador puppies in the paper. The best part was, they were on sale! There were only 3 left. Two females, a black and yellow, and one black male. We were interested in a female, and the yellow seemed to be more playful, so we picked her. Our little discount puppy! We named her Belle after the main character in Disney’s Beauty and the Beast.

I don’t remember much of raising Belle, besides the fact that I had no idea what I was doing. Dogs are way different from cats!  I’ve found they are also way more fun 😉 Belle is a more serious dog. She has her playful moments of course, but her overall demeanor is serious. She loves going on walks and eating table scraps (such a typical lab). I think she is the most beautiful dog, we’ve gotten many comments on her when out on walks. She is a highly intelligent dog. She can do many tricks, like put junk mail in our flip-top trash can. She can also squeeze under Zane’s crib to retrieve things like pacifiers, toys, socks, etc. She will be 5 this December, I can hardly believe it! She was my first baby. She still is my baby, just in a different way.

When Belle was about a year old, we decided she needed a playmate. Around the same time, Belle’s mom (real mom, not her adopted mom–me!) had another litter of puppies. The owners contacted us and said if we were interested they would honor the same price as Belle. Yay for another discount puppy! We were interested in a black female this time, there were 2 black females in the litter. Penny (named after one of the puppies in Disney’s 101 Dalmations) was so cute! She was so little and was playing with Jeremy and me. So, we scooped up our little sale pup and came home.

I love this picture of Penny, it truly shows her personality. Penny is such a playful pup. What Belle has in seriousness, Penny has in silliness. She also loves walks and eating (lab!), but is absolutely obsessed with her frisbee. Right now it’s a worn out ring of rubber, but she still loves it. She is a talented dog when it comes to running and catching it. She could literally do it all day long. She is also just so funny, and sometimes bad. She’s not a bad dog, she’s just energetic. She is also a smart pup, just lacks in common sense 😉 Jeremy did obedience training with her and told me she was very attentive to his commands. She turned 3 in January.

Belle wasn’t sure about Penny at first. Poor Penny, she so wanted to cuddle with Belle, yet Belle wanted little to do with Penny. Penny was also afraid of Belle, when Belle would come walking over to Penny she would hide. Now, however, they are bestest of friends 🙂

The mystery of marriage revealed

Marriage is a picture of Christ and His Church. The groom being Christ and the bride being the Church. The Church includes every single born-again believer collectively, not a specific church or denomination. This is the main reason why Biblical marriage is so important to God. Anything outside of one man and one woman being faithful to each other for their entire lives distorts the picture. The bible verses that talk about this mystery are Ephesians 5:22-33.

Ephesians 5

22Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord.

   23For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church: and he is the saviour of the body.

   24Therefore as the church is subject unto Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in every thing.

   25Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it;

   26That he might sanctify and cleanse it with the washing of water by the word,

   27That he might present it to himself a glorious church, not having spot, or wrinkle, or any such thing; but that it should be holy and without blemish.

   28So ought men to love their wives as their own bodies. He that loveth his wife loveth himself.

   29For no man ever yet hated his own flesh; but nourisheth and cherisheth it, even as the Lord the church:

   30For we are members of his body, of his flesh, and of his bones.

   31For this cause shall a man leave his father and mother, and shall be joined unto his wife, and they two shall be one flesh.

   32This is a great mystery: but I speak concerning Christ and the church.

   33Nevertheless let every one of you in particular so love his wife even as himself; and the wife see that she reverence her husband.

With the roles of church (wife) and Christ (husband) in mind, the commands and pictures of this passage makes more sense.

The church should submit to Christ, likewise the wife should submit to her husband. Christ died for his church, likewise the husband should be willing to die for his wife if need be.  Also, the husband and wife should be one flesh, as Christ and His Church are one flesh. Romans 8:15-17 states 15For ye have not received the spirit of bondage again to fear; but ye have received the Spirit of adoption, whereby we cry, Abba, Father. 16The Spirit itself beareth witness with our spirit, that we are the children of God: 17And if children, then heirs; heirs of God, and joint-heirs with Christ; if so be that we suffer with him, that we may be also glorified together.

There are several ways of distorting this picture in our own marriages, and many of us are guilty of doing it at some point or another.

Divorce. God hates divorce. Malachi 2:16aFor the LORD, the God of Israel, saith that he hateth putting away:…God allows divorce because of hardness of hearts (Matthew 19:8, Mark 10:5). Christ would never leave His church, and His church will never leave Him (on a whole, not an individual basis). One flesh should not be separated. I understand there are different circumstances, but with a divorce rate of 50% and climbing, the problem lays with us. Committment and promises mean little in today’s society. Trucebreaking is one of the traits of the perilous end times (2 Timothy 3:3). There are two Biblical grounds for divorce: fornication (includes adultery) and abandonment (1 Corinthians 7:15). Also, anyone who marries someone who was divorced is committing adultery and causing the divorcee to commit adultery (Matthew 5:32, 19:9, Mark 10:11-12, Luke 16:18).

However, while on the topic of remarriage, I do not believe God condemns all divorced and remarried people. I believe God will not hold us accountable for things we do not know (Acts 17:30a). If someone is not a Christian and/or does not understand God’s views on divorce and remarriage, He will not hold it against them. John 4 is a story about Jesus interacting with a Samaritan woman at the well. He asks her to bring her husband, she admits she has no husband. In verse 18 Jesus says For thou hast had five husbands; and he whom thou now hast is not thy husband: in that saidst thou truly. Jesus identifies all 5 men as husbands, not merely her first husband. He also states the man she is living with now is not her husband, implying he could potentially be her husband.

Adultery. There are two kinds of adultery: physical and spiritual. As Christians, we can commit adultery by worshiping other gods. As a spouse, we can cheat on our spouses physically, mentally (Matthew 5:28), emotionally, etc. Christ is always faithful to us, we are not always faithful back. By committing adultery, we are distorting the testimony of the Church to her husband.

Abuse. The key verses for this distortion are 25-29. Husbands should love their wives enough to die for them, husbands should love their wives as their own body. An abusive man would not abuse himself, so what justifies abusing the one he is called to love, lead, and provide for? There are also abusive wives. Abusing your husband is, obviously, not very submissive or loving. Proverbs 31: 11The heart of her husband doth safely trust in her, so that he shall have no need of spoil. 12She will do him good and not evil all the days of her life.

Homosexuality. Despite the obvious warnings against homosexual behavior (Leviticus 18, 20, and Romans 1), the picture in Ephesians 5 cannot exist in a homosexual relationship. There would be either two Christs or two Churches. I believe this is a main reason God disproves of homosexuality, there cannot be a testimony of Christ and His Church in that kind of union.

Polygamy. Righteous men of the Old Testament had multiple wives. Abraham, Jacob, David, and many other men throughout the Bible. These men also lied, murdered, stole, decieved…so I’m not sure using them as a basis that “plural marriage is God’s plan because He didn’t punish them for it” is a very good argument. There is one Christ (2 Corinthians 11:4, John 14:6) and the church is one body (Romans 12:5, 1 Corinthians 12:12, Galatians 3:28). The picture is not one Christ and multiple bodies (multiple wives). Less common, but still equally distorted, the picture is not multiple Christs and one body (reverse polygamy). The picture, as stated in Ephesians 5 above, is ONE Christ and ONE Body/Church.

Abandonment. The second Biblical reason for divorce, along with adultery. 1 Corinthians 7:  15But if the unbelieving depart, let him depart. A brother or a sister is not under bondage in such cases: but God hath called us to peace. This is similar to the distortion of divorce because it is either Christ leaving His church or the church leaving Christ. The husband not providing for his family or the wife not providing for her family are seen as very serious in Scripture. (1 Timothy 5:8 and Titus 2:5 respectively).

Fornication. Most often when someone thinks of fornication they think of relations before marriage. Scripturally it can also include any other sexual sin, like adultery. Matthew 15:19 and Mark 7:21 list “fornications” (plural) among a list of evil thoughts in one’s heart. Fornication physically makes someone unclean in their marriage, and spiritually in their relationship with God. It is always seen in a negative way, it is the only sin that we commit against our own bodies 1 Corinthians 6:18Flee fornication. Every sin that a man doeth is without the body; but he that committeth fornication sinneth against his own body. The main reason we should abstain from fornication is also in 1 Corinthians 6, in verse 16 What? know ye not that he which is joined to an harlot is one body? for two, saith he, shall be one flesh. How can a person be one flesh with two people if we are only one flesh with our spouse? It shouldn’t be.

Being unequally yoked. Scripture can really speak for itself on this one. 2 Corinthians 6:14Be ye not unequally yoked together with unbelievers: for what fellowship hath righteousness with unrighteousness? and what communion hath light with darkness? 15And what concord hath Christ with Belial? or what part hath he that believeth with an infidel?  16And what agreement hath the temple of God with idols? for ye are the temple of the living God; as God hath said, I will dwell in them, and walk in them; and I will be their God, and they shall be my people.

Reverse gender roles. This may be off the deep end, but God designed men and women for different jobs so a deliberate reverse of those jobs is a distortion of the roles of Christ and His Church. There are always circumstances that make fulfilling your God-given roles difficult or sometimes impossible. I understand this, and more importantly, God understands this.

No marriage is perfect, mine is not. We are imperfect people, resulting in imperfect marriages. No marriage on earth will show fully God’s love for us as His bride in our relationship with Him. Pictures are not exact, but the picture of our marriage shouldn’t be a Picasso of our heavenly marriage 🙂

These are Jeremy and my wedding rings! ❤

Why do you wear skirts?

I’m afraid the answer to this question may disappoint…or may be a relief that I’m not in a cult. 🙂 Either way, the reason is probably not as exciting as people think.

In short, I wear skirts 99% of the time because…wait for it…I like them. I like how they feel and I like how they look. I’ve found skirts are more comfortable for doing chores around the house, walking around, pretty much anything. I also like how they are more modest than most pants, I feel more confident and feminine.

I’d like to go over a few things that do not affect my decision in wearing skirts.

1) The belief that women should not wear what a man wears and visa versa. Deuteronomy 22:5 states: The woman shall not wear that which pertaineth unto a man, neither shall a man put on a woman’s garment: for all that do so are abomination unto the LORD thy God. 

I am definitely not putting down brothers and sisters who choose to obey Old Testament laws. I believe we are no longer under law, but under grace.

Romans 6: 14For sin shall not have dominion over you: for ye are not under the law, but under grace. 15What then? shall we sin, because we are not under the law, but under grace? God forbid.

Galatians 3:23But before faith came, we were kept under the law, shut up unto the faith which should afterwards be revealed. 24Wherefore the law was our schoolmaster to bring us unto Christ, that we might be justified by faith.  25But after that faith is come, we are no longer under a schoolmaster. 26For ye are all the children of God by faith in Christ Jesus. 27For as many of you as have been baptized into Christ have put on Christ. 28There is neither Jew nor Greek, there is neither bond nor free, there is neither male nor female: for ye are all one in Christ Jesus.

Galatians 4:9But now, after that ye have known God, or rather are known of God, how turn ye again to the weak and beggarly elements, whereunto ye desire again to be in bondage?

However, even if this verse did still apply for today, what makes skirts a woman’s garment and pants a man’s? When Moses wrote the Law, everyone wore robes. Depending on the cut and style of the robe people could recognize it as a man’s or woman’s robe. Similarly, today pants have different cuts and styles.

Other clothing items also depend on cut and style, such as t-shirts, undergarments, socks, gloves, shoes. And many items depend solely on color, for example a navy blue hat vs. a bright pink hat.

2) The belief that all pants are too immodest for women to wear. I do believe many styles of pants are immodest, especially in trendy jeans. This is my personal preference. Scripture calls women to dress in modest apparel, that is the extent of it.

3) The belief that women are inferior to men and need to know their place! Galatians 3:28 quoted above addresses this, we are all equal in Christ. Women are called to do a different and very special job in Scripture (to be a help meet and keeper of the home- I’m sure I will write a blog or several on this topic), but different does not automatically mean inferior or subservient.

4) I’ve only read this belief once, but may as well address it: the word “apparel” in 1 Timothy 2:9 In like manner also, that women adorn themselves in modest apparel, with shamefacedness and sobriety; not with broided hair, or gold, or pearls, or costly array; in the Greek means “1) a lowering, letting down, 2) a garment let down, dress, attire”. Pants cannot possibly “lower or let down”. However, I’m sure the robe-type garments both men and women wore during Paul’s life lowered and let down. Perhaps women’s were slightly longer, I don’t know, either way, cut and style were key same as during Moses’ time.

Skirts are also so much fun to make! Have an old pair of jeans you’re going to throw out? Why not make them into a cute skirt instead! 😉 These are two skirts I’ve made. Please excuse my dogs, Belle (yellow) is a photo hog! Penny (black) must have just wanted pet.

So, there you have it. Hopefully no one was expecting a big, controversial answer. 😉 I always thought women who wore only skirts were weird and legalistic, I’m sure some are…but rest assured, some of us are normal women who just happened to like skirts! 🙂

Stu-stu-stuttering

There are many disorders and disabilities that are unseen and unknown. Many misconceptions usually surround such disorders, and embarrassment sometimes follows for the person with the disability. I am afflicted with one such disorder, a speech disorder known as “stuttering”. I am not alone, there are approximately 3 million Americans who stutter and 68 million people who stutter (PWS) worldwide. This statistic is definitely just an estimate, as there are different kinds of “stuttering”, I will discuss this later.

The National Stuttering Association’s (NSA) definition of stuttering is as follows:

“Stuttering is a communication disorder involving disruptions, or “disfluencies,” in a person’s speech. The word “stuttering” can be used to refer either to the specific speech disfluencies that are commonly seen in people who stutter or to the overall communication difficulty that people who stutter may experience.

In addition to producing disfluencies, people who stutter often experience physical tension and struggle in their speech muscles, as well as embarrassment, anxiety, and fear about speaking. Together, these symptoms can make it very difficult for people who stutter to say what they want to say, and to communicate effectively with others. There are, perhaps, as many different patterns of stuttering as there are people who stutter. There are many different degrees of stuttering, from mild to severe.”

I think this definition is very thorough. Not surprisingly, what good would the NSA be if it didn’t have a good definition of the disorder they represent? 😉 Many definitions of stuttering only include the speech itself, when that is only half of the problem. Sometimes the facial and bodily contortions are actually more embarrassing than the stutter itself. These can range from facial tics when stuck on a word, slapping your leg (or a nearby object) to get a word out, weird tongue movements, and sometimes even mental freezes.

What causes stuttering? The exact cause of stuttering is unknown. Researchers believe it is caused by an affected area in the individual’s brain. I personally believe this is true, mostly because every PWS has a different brain and therefore a different stutter. Stuttering can be hereditary and the gene is usually in the males. (Although in my family it affects mainly the females!)

Different kinds of stuttering: Not everyone who stutters is a PWS. Stuttering and other disfluencies are a normal part of everyday speech. Saying “um” or even “like” is considered disfluency in speech. The fluidity of your sentence is interrupted. Most everyone stutters sometimes in their speech, sometimes when nervous or when searching for a word. Stuttering can also be a normal part of developing speech in children. Usually it is outgrown and has no lasting affects into adulthood, sometimes though the stutter will be a forever impediment. This is why when I see lists of “famous people who stutter” or how many millions of people in the world stutter, I take it with a grain of salt.

Misconceptions and Myths concerning stuttering:

– Being nervous or shy causes people to stutter. — It is usually the opposite, stuttering causes people to be nervous or shy. Nerves can increase the severity of a person’s stuttering.

– PWS are less intelligent. — Simply not true. Stuttering does not affect ability to learn or intellect.

– PWS were scared as a child, this caused a stutter. — Old wives’ tale.

– Slowing down and relaxing will make the stuttering go away. — Usually slowing down and breathing more often will help a PWS speak more fluid. This is a common speech technique used by PWS.

– We forget our names often. — This is mostly a joke, since most PWS struggle saying their names. I have often been asked the question “did you forget?” when asked my name. I believe most PWS have a hard time saying their own names because there is no way out of it and because you know the question is coming (anticipatory stuttering).

Is there a cure? This is a debated topic among PWS and those who research the topic. Many of us believe “no”, and this is my personal belief. Stuttering can be managed and coped with, but I believe it cannot be cured (at least not at this time). Little is known about stuttering and the brain abnormalities are complex. If a cure would ever be invented, it would probably have to be a different formula for everyone because we all have different brains and genes.

How should I act around a PWS? Well, we’re not a different species, so just act normal. 🙂 Patience is required when talking with a PWS. Just wait and listen. You can fill in their words, but I wouldn’t recommend it. Sometimes the word you choose is wrong and the problem word has to be started all over again! Plus this can make PWS nervous and cause them to stutter even more. It’s better to play it safe and wait a few extra seconds for us to just get the word out.

Recent media attention:  MTV’s “True Life: I stutter” and 2010 movie “The King’s Speech” both give stuttering (or stammering, as it is called in England) national/international broadcasting. More people have heard about stuttering than before, and are more tolerant. “A Fish Called Wanda”, a movie released in 1988, also has a main character with a very realistic stutter.

My personal struggle with stuttering: I don’t remember when I started stuttering, my mother says I was very young and my brother says he remembers me stuttering as a child. Things like that don’t bother little kids, but I learned to be covert and became very good at it. Through Jr. High and High School no one knew I was a PWS. This was very hard on me. I was always paranoid someone would hear me then my cover would be gone. My deception worked well, however, and when I “came out” about my stuttering everyone had the same reaction….What? You don’t stutter! or I never knew you stuttered. Except, obviously, my family.

Half way through college, I was ready to come clean about my speech. I was so tired of hiding it, it can be truly exhausting! I made an appointment with a speech therapist at school. The day before my appointment, well actually the very early morning on the day of the appointment, in a panic I called and canceled it. I rescheduled for another day. Jeremy left work early to emotionally support me, we arrive…it was the wrong day! I was so discouraged, however, the speech therapist told me about a support group along with when and where they meet. What a great group it is! They are so encouraging to me! I broke down and cried my first meeting, I was so overwhelmed.

I decided I didn’t want to be covert anymore, that I wanted to embrace and love the way God made me. I will still go into “covert mode” often and I usually regret it. I will replace words I know I will stutter on with other words, even if they don’t make as much sense as the original word. I will use filler words often, and at times even act like I forgot what I was going to say so the listener fills it in for me. This will be a life-long struggle and I hope to totally accept it someday.

I thought this sign was clever….

“Slow Dance”

SLOW DANCE  -Anonymous author
Have you ever watched kids
On a merry-go-round?
Or listened to the rain
Slapping on the ground?
Ever followed a butterfly’s erratic flight?
Or gazed at the sun into the fading night?
You better slow down.
Don’t dance so fast.
Time is short.
The music won’t last.

Do you run through each day
On the fly?
When you ask “How are you?”
Do you hear the reply?
When the day is done
Do you lie in your bed
With the next hundred chores
Running through your head?
You’d better slow down
Don’t dance so fast.
Time is short.
The music won’t last.

Ever told your child,
We’ll do it tomorrow?
And in your haste,
Not see his sorrow?
Ever lost touch,
Let a good friendship die
Cause you never had time
To call and say “Hi”?
You’d better slow down.
Don’t dance so fast.
Time is short.
The music won’t last.

When you run so fast to get somewhere
You miss half the fun of getting there.
When you worry and hurry through your day,
It is like an unopened gift….
Thrown away.
Life is not a race.
Do take it slower
Hear the music
Before the song is over.

This really spoke to my heart, I can be very guilty of going too fast. Even when our family is getting ready to go somewhere fun, I will rush, rush, rush and get frustrated that people aren’t getting ready fast enough! Some of the fun is taken away from our trip, because the preparation for the event was horrible.

I have noticed when I slow down, not worry about getting there right away and allow everyone to take as long as they need…we have a much better time in general. Everything can be enjoyable, from waking up on the day of the exciting activity to talking about it days later.

Our lives are short, slow down. Give your spouse a kiss, crazy dance with your children, give your pet a hug.

Psalm 90:12So teach us to number our days, that we may apply our hearts unto wisdom.

Isaiah 40:6-8 6The voice said, Cry. And he said, What shall I cry? All flesh is grass, and all the goodliness thereof is as the flower of the field:  7The grass withereth, the flower fadeth: because the spirit of the LORD bloweth upon it: surely the people is grass. 8The grass withereth, the flower fadeth: but the word of our God shall stand for ever.

1 Peter 1:24-25 24For all flesh is as grass, and all the glory of man as the flower of grass. The grass withereth, and the flower thereof falleth away: 25But the word of the Lord endureth for ever. And this is the word which by the gospel is preached unto you.