Archive | July 2012

Goodbye first trimester!

You will not be missed! What a tiring first couple months. I’ve been so tired lately it’s unbelievable. The nausea comes and goes, lately it’s been hitting me in the evening instead of the morning. Morning sickness is a misleading term, I say we ladies rename it “all day and all night sickness”! 😉 I’ve also heard everything shifts downwards with pregnancies after your first, baby must be sitting on my bladder…again, all day and all night!

I had a check up a few days ago, everything went very well. Baby’s heart beat was 150 bmp. The old wives’ tale says anything above 140 bmp is a girl 😉 so we will see! No complications, I am so excited to meet my new little one!

Our next ultrasound is August 28th, which is at 19 1/2 weeks so we will hopefully be finding out what gender it is! I’ve had the overwhelming feeling the whole pregnancy that it is a girl, which means it is probably a boy 😉 I obviously don’t care either way. We have a girl named picked out but we are drawing blanks on a boy name (either way, not sharing until it’s born!). We have a good idea for a middle name, but we can’t agree on a first name. We’ll think more seriously about it if it does turn out being a boy.


50 Shades of Magic Yuck

I read a really great blog the other day about a woman’s view on the new book “50 Shades of Grey” by E.L. James, it inspired me to write my own blog. However, the new movie “Magic Mike” originally got my wheels turning on this topic.

I need to preface by saying I haven’t seen “Magic Mike” or read “50 Shades of Grey”, and I don’t intend to. I don’t have to, I know what they are about based on previews, summaries, and what others say about them.

I have heard from others that “Magic Mike” has a poor story line…they quickly follow by saying something like “but who cares!”. Exactly. With half to three-quarter naked eye-candy men, who would care. I’ve also heard from others that Romance Novels don’t really have a plot. Without a plot there is no basis for a book. Exactly. It’s not a “book”.

According to wikipedia, “50 Shades of Grey” is an erotic novel. When you click on the blue word “erotic”, wiki goes into more detail. Here are some things under “contemporary erotic fiction”, emphasis mine:

“A development in contemporary erotica has been that, contrary to some previous views that it was mainly a male interest, many women readers are aroused by it, whether it be traditional pornography or tailor-made women’s erotica. Romantic novels are sometimes marketed as erotica—-or vice versa—-as “mainstream” romance in recent decades has begun to exhibit blatant (if poetic) descriptions of sex. Erotic romance is a relatively new genre of romance with an erotic theme and very explicit love scenes, but with a romance at the heart of the story. […]”

If it’s not on a computer screen, it must be okay. Lust is never okay though, in any form. I think most people associate struggling with issues like lust, pornography, etc. with men. I think this is a grave misconception. According to one site, 1 in 3 pornography viewers are women, but with 70% of women keeping their activities a secret, that number may be higher. I think women generally are too ashamed to talk about it. Or maybe they don’t see it as a problem, which is odd since if the roles were reversed (their men lusting after other women) they would be very upset.

Which leads to another point. Women typically don’t want their men looking at or thinking about other (maybe more attractive) women. When they do, we feel a host of emotions, including hurt, jealousy, anger, mistrust, etc. What makes us women believe that men don’t feel the same emotions we do? That men want all of our hearts and minds just like we want all of theirs? Imagine this: “Magic Michelle” starring Scarlett Johansson, Genesis Rodriguez, Meagan Good, Katrina Bowden, and Alison Brie. (I didn’t know who most of these women were, but they are all very attractive women.) discusses a female version of Magic Mike, obviously for men to go see. One statement from this article sounded very similar to what I’ve heard women say about Magic Mike…”What would the movie be about? WHO CARES.” Want your man going to see this? Me either.

Obviously not all men are going to care, just like not all women are going to care. Men also may not want to talk about it, we all know how men are with “feelings” 😉 or they may see it as a sign of weakness. Wouldn’t it just be better to assume they do care, that they do want all of your heart, and save them the possible hurt by just not doing it?

I’ve also seen many studies about the negative affects of pornography. Especially, but not limited to, pornography addiction. It negatively affects marriages, children, work, and society.

Whether men care or not is besides the point. Whether pornography has a poor effect on someone’s life is besides the point. Lusting is adultery.

Matthew 5: .27 Ye have heard that it was said by them of old time, Thou shalt not commit adultery:28 But I say unto you, That whosoever looketh on a woman to lust after her hath committed adultery with her already in his heart.

How can we deceive ourselves to think that when we view movies/read books with a basis of erotica, we are not lusting? Sometimes movies, TV shows, books have sexual scenes and/or nudity. Usually these scenes could be deleted and not damage the plot one bit, they are most often unnecessary (and I wish they would take them out!). If you took the sex scenes and nudity from “Magic Mike” and “50 Shades of Grey”, I don’t think you’d be left with much of anything.

We should flee such things, not embrace them as “fun”. 1 Corinthians 6:18 18 Flee fornication. Every sin that a man doeth is without the body; but he that committeth fornication sinneth against his own body.

Please excuse the curse word in the below picture, I thought the message was too powerful to not share.

The dirty S-word

Not that dirty s-word 😉 though that one may be more accepted than the dirty s-word I’m talking about!

Submission. Boo! Hiss! Really there are several types of submission, and we all do it on a daily basis.

The most obvious form of submission is obeying God. It is the simplest way we can show Him we love Him. John 14:15If ye love me, keep my commandments.

On a daily basis we obey laws. Most everyone indirectly obeys God when they do this. Romans 13:1-8 deal with obeying authority (governmental), as well as paying taxes. Romans 13: 1Let every soul be subject unto the higher powers. For there is no power but of God: the powers that be are ordained of God. 2Whosoever therefore resisteth the power, resisteth the ordinance of God: and they that resist shall receive to themselves damnation. Jesus also addressed paying taxes in Matthew 22:21They say unto him, Caesar’s. Then saith he unto them, Render therefore unto Caesar the things which are Caesar’s; and unto God the things that are God’s. In paying our taxes, we are obeying those in authority. During the time of Jesus, Herod was king. Herod was not a very kind king. Taxes were probably as they are today, high and for ungodly things. Still, Jesus commanded His followers to obey.

There is an exception from obeying, even as far up as the president! When man is asking/ordering us to do something that goes against God. Obeying God over man is all over the Bible. There are many famous stories such as Daniel in the lions’ den and the three men thrown into the fiery furnace. God delivered these men, but even if He chose to let them die, they did the right thing by obeying God. In the book of Acts, the apostles were arrested for preaching about Jesus Christ. Chapter 5 verses 27-29 read 27And when they had brought them, they set them before the council: and the high priest asked them,28Saying, Did not we straitly command you that ye should not teach in this name? and, behold, ye have filled Jerusalem with your doctrine, and intend to bring this man’s blood upon us. 29Then Peter and the other apostles answered and said, We ought to obey God rather than men. The government officials were ordering the apostles to violate Jesus’s commandment to go and teach all nations (also known as the Great Commission, Matthew 28:19).

Another authority in some of our lives is the pastor of our church. Hebrews 13:17Obey them that have the rule over you, and submit yourselves: for they watch for your souls, as they that must give account, that they may do it with joy, and not with grief: for that is unprofitable for you. This is just as much a challenge to the pastor as it is to the church-goer. Pastors are charged with watching out for our souls, and every single one will give an account for what they did or did not do. This also extends to anyone who teaches: Sunday School teachers, regular school teachers, parents, one-on-one teaching another Christian, anything. That’s a very big challenge indeed!

Employers are also authorities in our lives. My husband obeys his employers, otherwise he wouldn’t have a job! 🙂 Ephesians 6:5Servants, be obedient to them that are your masters according to the flesh, with fear and trembling, in singleness of your heart, as unto Christ; 6Not with eyeservice, as menpleasers; but as the servants of Christ, doing the will of God from the heart; 7With good will doing service, as to the Lord, and not to men: 8Knowing that whatsoever good thing any man doeth, the same shall he receive of the Lord, whether he be bond or free. Colossians 3:22-24 says something similar.

Another form of submission is when children obey their parents. This is so important to God, He included it in the 10 Commandments. It’s commandment #5. Exodus 20:12Honour thy father and thy mother: that thy days may be long upon the land which the LORD thy God giveth thee. Ephesians 6 goes into a little more detail, 1Children, obey your parents in the Lord: for this is right.2Honour thy father and mother; which is the first commandment with promise; 3That it may be well with thee, and thou mayest live long on the earth. A promise is attached to this commandment. Parents are (usually) wiser than their children. They have lived and know things their children do not based solely on their age and experience. Most of us could say we would have made fewer mistakes in life if we had listened to our parents.

The above are the easier types of submission to swallow, here’s the dirty part…submission of a wife to her husband. Dun dun dun!

Ephesians 5:22 Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord.  Colossians 3:18 Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as it is fit in the Lord.  

There are many misconceptions about this kind of submission. Including, but not limited to, we are forced to submit, we are doormats, we are unintelligent, we have no opinions, we have no voice. True submission can never be forced. Then it wouldn’t be submission, but slavery (which includes submission, but not the submission I am talking about-Biblical submission).  In Titus 2:4-5 loving your husband comes before obeying him. The others can be lumped together: we can be intelligent, we have both opinions and voices, therefore we are not doormats.

Every marriage that chooses to obey God in this is different. Some husbands require more submission than others. Some wives have a harder time with this than other wives (like me!). Decisions should be made jointly, wise men listen to their wives. But when agreement cannot be met on a certain subject, the president trumps the vice president. This is a main reason for submission, to create order within a marriage and a household. God, husband, wife, children. 1 Corinthians 11:3 But I would have you know, that the head of every man is Christ; and the head of the woman is the man; and the head of Christ is God.

Submission isn’t easy, it’s pretty much as hard as it sounds. But the rewards of obeying God by obeying your husband are priceless. It brings us one step closer to holiness and godliness. 1 Peter 3:5For after this manner in the old time the holy women also, who trusted in God, adorned themselves, being in subjection unto their own husbands: 6Even as Sara obeyed Abraham, calling him lord: whose daughters ye are, as long as ye do well, and are not afraid with any amazement.

Some of the pictures on this are kind of weird, but I thought it was funny overall 🙂 and true.