I read a really great blog the other day about a woman’s view on the new book “50 Shades of Grey” by E.L. James, it inspired me to write my own blog. However, the new movie “Magic Mike” originally got my wheels turning on this topic.
I need to preface by saying I haven’t seen “Magic Mike” or read “50 Shades of Grey”, and I don’t intend to. I don’t have to, I know what they are about based on previews, summaries, and what others say about them.
I have heard from others that “Magic Mike” has a poor story line…they quickly follow by saying something like “but who cares!”. Exactly. With half to three-quarter naked eye-candy men, who would care. I’ve also heard from others that Romance Novels don’t really have a plot. Without a plot there is no basis for a book. Exactly. It’s not a “book”.
According to wikipedia, “50 Shades of Grey” is an erotic novel. When you click on the blue word “erotic”, wiki goes into more detail. Here are some things under “contemporary erotic fiction”, emphasis mine:
“A development in contemporary erotica has been that, contrary to some previous views that it was mainly a male interest, many women readers are aroused by it, whether it be traditional pornography or tailor-made women’s erotica. Romantic novels are sometimes marketed as erotica—-or vice versa—-as “mainstream” romance in recent decades has begun to exhibit blatant (if poetic) descriptions of sex. Erotic romance is a relatively new genre of romance with an erotic theme and very explicit love scenes, but with a romance at the heart of the story. […]”
If it’s not on a computer screen, it must be okay. Lust is never okay though, in any form. I think most people associate struggling with issues like lust, pornography, etc. with men. I think this is a grave misconception. According to one site, 1 in 3 pornography viewers are women, but with 70% of women keeping their activities a secret, that number may be higher. I think women generally are too ashamed to talk about it. Or maybe they don’t see it as a problem, which is odd since if the roles were reversed (their men lusting after other women) they would be very upset.
Which leads to another point. Women typically don’t want their men looking at or thinking about other (maybe more attractive) women. When they do, we feel a host of emotions, including hurt, jealousy, anger, mistrust, etc. What makes us women believe that men don’t feel the same emotions we do? That men want all of our hearts and minds just like we want all of theirs? Imagine this: “Magic Michelle” starring Scarlett Johansson, Genesis Rodriguez, Meagan Good, Katrina Bowden, and Alison Brie. (I didn’t know who most of these women were, but they are all very attractive women.) http://screencrush.com/magic-mike-girls/ discusses a female version of Magic Mike, obviously for men to go see. One statement from this article sounded very similar to what I’ve heard women say about Magic Mike…”What would the movie be about? WHO CARES.” Want your man going to see this? Me either.
Obviously not all men are going to care, just like not all women are going to care. Men also may not want to talk about it, we all know how men are with “feelings” 😉 or they may see it as a sign of weakness. Wouldn’t it just be better to assume they do care, that they do want all of your heart, and save them the possible hurt by just not doing it?
I’ve also seen many studies about the negative affects of pornography. Especially, but not limited to, pornography addiction. It negatively affects marriages, children, work, and society.
Whether men care or not is besides the point. Whether pornography has a poor effect on someone’s life is besides the point. Lusting is adultery.
Matthew 5: .27 Ye have heard that it was said by them of old time, Thou shalt not commit adultery:28 But I say unto you, That whosoever looketh on a woman to lust after her hath committed adultery with her already in his heart.
How can we deceive ourselves to think that when we view movies/read books with a basis of erotica, we are not lusting? Sometimes movies, TV shows, books have sexual scenes and/or nudity. Usually these scenes could be deleted and not damage the plot one bit, they are most often unnecessary (and I wish they would take them out!). If you took the sex scenes and nudity from “Magic Mike” and “50 Shades of Grey”, I don’t think you’d be left with much of anything.
We should flee such things, not embrace them as “fun”. 1 Corinthians 6:18 18 Flee fornication. Every sin that a man doeth is without the body; but he that committeth fornication sinneth against his own body.
Please excuse the curse word in the below picture, I thought the message was too powerful to not share.